A word to the women during the holiday season

I don’t know if it’s because the start of the holiday season has arrived, or if it’s just a coincidence, but I’m seeing some serious spiritual warfare this month on the hearts of women. Probably everyone, but women are who I talk to. Over and over again, I’m seeing and hearing so many comments from women who are being beaten over the head by a long list of lies they have started to believe. Honestly, I’m also seeing a lot of those women beat themselves over the heads.

So, if you’re currently reading this, my first request is that you stop for one second, close your eyes, and breathe. seriously. I’ll wait. okay. Was it a deep breath? if not, do it again.

okay. Now that you have more air in your lungs than you probably have in the last week, listen closely. You, sweet lady, are enough. Not because you, in your strength and ability are enough, but because within you is hidden the greatest power ever created. You have started to believe the lies that something more than what you have is needed. Something in your life isn’t enough, whether you think you need more money, more time, more something. Or maybe you think something more in YOU is needed. More energy, more patience, more time spent on something or someone. Moms, I’m definitely talking to you too.

“The calling of motherhood is not to be a supermom; the calling is to be a woman of God to your children.” -Angela Thomas

Often, we do need more. But the trouble comes in our perspectives.  When I want God to be the path to my need, I fail.  “God, please help me to get _______ or be ___________.”  When I flip that so that the thing is the path to God, I have a much higher success rate at keeping that needed oxygen in my lungs moving.  “God, please help me to get ________ or be __________ so I can serve You more or look more like You.”  He’s the destination, not the taxi driver, but I often get those things confused.

Rest assured that if you are desperately praying unselfishly for something in your life, and you do not have it yet, it is because God has something better planned. However, so often, we think the good that he has planned means “good.” What we would call good. Like, raspberry chocolate truffle in a waffle cone. ya know? But his definition of good is a bit different. Best would almost be better. He has something BEST for you and your’s. He’s got this.

What I don’t want is to raise up children that panic when everything isn’t what they would call perfect. I want children that grow up to say, “I really worked hard for that. I wanted it so bad. I prayed for it. I didn’t get it. It’s not going to happen. Let it go. Look forward, b/c something really great will happen here…” I want that for myself, also.  I want a habit of looking up in hopeful, expectation, and not looking down in discouragement. You, too?

You, dear one, are stressing out about school, work, your house, your family, or whatever, but he will fill you each day with what is needed for that day if you but ask! If we can just keep Him as our goal and nothing in the way of that. You may ask for energy to clean your house, but what he may hand you instead is tolerance and self-control. To understand “there’s an art to leaving some things undone so that more important things can be done” (Jill Briscoe).

He may also zap you with supernatural energy to clean your house like a 9 month pregnant nesting woman. (If so, come to my house next, pretty please? cuz we’re learning that self-control and tolerance thing here…sigh)

He isn’t looking at you with a critical spirit, so please please, don’t look at yourself with one. If you’re feeling guilty about not doing something, check that at the door. Conviction is way different than guilt. The first is motivating and inspiring in a way that energizes to do something different. Guilt is paralyzing, disabling, crippling. Nothing about that last one sounds like God to me. Right?

My eyes are ever on the Lord, for only he will release my feet from the snare. Psalm 25:15

Do not, for a second, dear one, think that a snare means some dreadful trap with giant metal teeth. It means anything that catches your foot and does not release you. It holds on to your mobility and your ability to move forward in life spiritually, and keeps you there. It digs deep into your soul and the more you struggle against it trying to break free, the deeper it goes until you’re lying on the ground refusing to even fight any longer. Just like that, you give up and call yourself a failure…a bad mother…a terrible employee, housekeeper, wife, whatever.

He can open it up.

It’s possible that when he opens that giant trap, that it will hurt…anytime a giant pressure is released, it hurts worse at first than it did when it was on, because life rushes back fast. Life is always fast like that.  But that doesn’t mean it’s better to snap it closed again and deal with the dull pain. Get rid of it. Kick that snare to the curb, whether it’s your PTA guilt, or your “should I do this or that?” guilt, or whatever. Get a fresh word from him! Stay close to him when you move on! He won’t let you get close to those snares, but even if you do step off, he can always open them back up…and the faster you let him, the less pain and trouble you’ll have.


Let go of whatever you’re carrying. It’s too heavy for you.

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30

2 comments on “A word to the women during the holiday season

  1. This. Were you in my house last night when everyone was in bed, and I threw a silent pity party about all the tasks I couldn’t complete? Were you in my house this morning when I made myself late for work because I was almost paralyzed by all of the things left undone? Were you in my car this morning, as I sat with tears in my eyes over how much I miss time with my baby and the guilt I feel when I choose housework over rocking him? No.. but His Spirit never left my side, and He is the one who gave you these words. For me. Thankful you let yourself be used for such a purpose!!

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